Launch that company I had been talking about (ascertain).
Move to Colorado.
Sell the rowhouse.
2016 was hard. Two out of four. I am happy to say Emily said yes and we are engaged. Also, I have moved to Colorado. She came out first, at the end of 2015. I was able to come out full time in the later half of 2016.
I can't say I don't miss Baltimore every day, or that Colorado is perfect, but it's fun for now. Living somewhere and not having any attachments is nice. Seeing what the world thought of your city and watching re-runs of your city fall apart in 2015 hurt. Baltimore is part of me, and will always be a big part of who I am. Moving cross country has taught me that people are terrible everywhere, but there are also great and wonderful people everywhere, too.
Selling the rowhouse. I didn't finish it before I left, but it will get it on the market in January. My mom and dad are sealing the floors and then it will be on the market. I am a lot more lucky than most people to have parents that have helped me so much.
Launch Ascertain. The plan was to move to Colorado, work at fearless, and spend all my free time (outside of working for them) getting my project to launch. A lot of shit happened, I got laid off, the job I had taken fell through, and then it took a while to find full time work. I had gone way in the hole, financially, but I got good work with Aces inc, thanks to a friend I had worked with before, and started to dig out.
Things I learned:
Swallow your fucking pride.
It doesn't really matter what happens, you need to keep going. If you get stabbed in the back, swallow your pride and do whatever you can until you have something else to get by. None of that matters and no one will want to hear it. Just keep going.
"The race is long, and in the end, it's only with yourself" - Mary Schmich
Listen to the your inner circle
Even if you don't do what they say, they are the most likely to have your interests at heart and will not want you to have to learn lessons they have learned the hard way.
Have something outside of your job
My hobbies and my job are the same thing. I really enjoyed working on the row house, learning from my dad how to build things. I enjoyed working on my cars/trucks. I can't do much, but it was fun to try. I liked wandering around Baltimore City and knowing the side that people outside of B-more never see.
Since I got to Colorado, I havn't found anything new to do to fill those holes. The calluses on my hands are gone, and my days and nights are spent on a computer. Not having something to turn to that you like doing gives you too much time to baste in your problems, too much time to spin your wheels and not move forward with anything.
Don't re-learn any of the lessons I learned in 2016.